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2013 August 21 - Recognizing Our Need for Others

If I accept my limitations and liabilities and look to others to do what I cannot, then we are bound together through many such multi-dimensional interactions. The struggle in building community is often a matter of my not recognizing my need for others. In a sense, it is my failure to see the need to be saved from my own deficiencies, not only by God but by other men and women. Sometimes the best way to turn an enemy into a friend or to restart stalled communications is to ask a favor, to put ourselves in the position of a petitioner, to give the other a chance to demonstrate magnanimity. This is not so easy. Sometimes there will be rebuffs, but the tactic works more often than not, so long as we approach it in a spirit of humility and simplicity. By admitting our “weakness” we allow the other to feel “strong,” and most people like us a little more for that. (page 113)

Strangers to the City: Reflections on the Beliefs and Values of the Rule of Saint Benedict
by Michael Casey, OSCO